My young teen boys are perfectly happy having their “girlfriend” come over to the house and have dinner with the family and then watch movies or play games in the family room with the entire family. I know that many people think this is a horrible reason to allow your kids to do anything. The key is finding the way to say it so they will listen.Except that in this instance, I have seen time and time again parents who refuse to allow their kids to date and kids who lie, sneak around and do it anyway. One of my sons briefly had a girlfriend that was always angry at him for something.
Since you have a houseful of kids, I am wondering how you deal with this. “Mean Mom” Back when all of my children were small I always said that they could date once they were ready to get married. Based on my own life experiences I couldn’t see how it possibly could be a good thing. As they have grown I have realized that there is no protecting children from being hurt.And that there are valuable lessons to be learned in all of our relationships, romantic and otherwise.They are laying out the blueprint for the path their future relationships will take.You wouldn’t let your teenager drive without some instruction, view this as relationship instructions.I believe it’s important to step back from the pressures around you and take a good look at the whole issue of dating. I hope that by giving you such a full answer, it will open your heart to the counter-cultural approach I am proposing to you regarding romance, dating and courtship.
The Purpose of Dating: What is the purpose of dating?
Later that week we were grocery shopping again– I swear I live there at the grocery store– and when he saw the flowers he asked if he could buy a bouquet.
I don’t know that I have seen anything recently that I more wanted to take a photo of than him standing at his girlfriend’s front door, holding the bouquet behind his back.
This was the perfect opportunity to bring up how it made him feel to have someone do something spontaneously nice for him.
I never mentioned the flowers, but brought up the point that we do special things for special people in our lives–family and friends.
He told me later that she was so happy and in turn it made him so happy.